Without Love

I posted the following comment over at Vox Day's place in response to his post entitled Dr. Helen walks into the minefield".

The post is primarily concerned with a certain young woman who has apparently decided that normal sexual relations with her husband are "beyond boring". Furthermore she seems to have yoked her willingness to engage in normal sexual relations with her husband with the amount of housework he shares. This is yet another sad example of the unregenerate self-centered worldview at work (as opposed to the Christian theistic worldview).

My response to the situation as presented was:

There's clearly a lack of spousal love in that relationship and a rejection of the admonition of scripture as found in 1 Corinthians 7:4-6:

"4The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.

5Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.

6But I speak this by permission, and not of commandment."

What the apostle Paul is addressing here under inspiration of the Holy Spirit is quite simply that a man and his wife should not abstain from normal sexual relations ("Defraud ye not one the other").

Paul is also careful to append the comment that he speaks this "by permission and not of commandment". What he doesn't mean here however is that he has suddenly become uninspired and is speaking only for Paul, rather he is stating that the husband and wife ought to mutually consent to normal sexual relations as opposed to commanding, (i.e. forcing) sexual relations upon one another.

Again, for the Christian it goes back to simple Godly love. For the unregenerate no amount of counseling or other means of stimulation can substitute for the power of repentance (a change of heart) and the regeneration of spirit and mind (sanctification) that is uniquely available through the shed blood of Jesus Christ.